What to do when you feel like your mom failing.
In the short time that I have been a mother I have felt so many times like I am doing everything wrong. I see something that my child has done or said, that they clearly learned from me, and I can’t help but wonder when I am going to feel like I am not messing everything up!
In the society that we live in, it is very difficult to ever feel like you are doing a good job! Everyone around us puts on a happy face and it looks like they are doing everything right. We all know the truth that sometimes they are failing but no one sees that part so it looks like everything is all wrapped up in one little perfect family present with the most perfect family portrait of everyone smiling and it is put in a Christmas card that is sent on time!!!!!! (That run on sentence was on purpose - come on, feel my anger building as I rant!) I could scream just thinking about it.
Well, the truth is that as much as we don’t see other people’s failures, most of the time people miss ours too. There is always someone out there that sees something that you are doing and thinks to themselves wow, I wish I could do that. We sit here and encourage the heck out of our kids, telling them that they can do anything that they put their minds to. Well, mama- you can too!
I was in a store the other day picking up pictures to put in Christmas cards to send out because this year I am super determined! An older lady was ordering pictures and sort of talking to herself and I at the same time. She said, “Maybe this year I will get the cards out on time”. This was so encouraging to me. I looked at her and chuckled explaining how I always try to send out cards but it never works out and how it made me feel better that I was not the only one. She explained that she beat herself up for years until finally she said screw it and just sent them late and when people got them, they got them.
Now, maybe you are some guru, super hero who can get cards out on time. If this is the case, refer to paragraph 3 where I talk about everyone having a strength, this one is yours sister. Anyways, to me, this was huge. Here is a woman who has gained wisdom through life, she decided that because it wasn’t her strength, she wasn’t going to stress about it. The pictures that she was printing had many children of hers that were now adults and many grandchildren. Her life has multiplied in marvelous ways and it is not due to Christmas cards.
As mom, we go day in and day out doing things for our kids and sometimes we are going to fail big time. The only thing that we can do it to keep it moving, we have little ones that think that we are super humans even when we fail. How blessed we truly are. Stay encouraged, you’re doing a great job!